3 Dutch Pictures 1: Rogier van der Weyden, 'De bewening van Christus' (1460)

Look closer. What is this painting about if not the decorousness of bereavement? -- a man with one hand to a black headdress, as if holding it on -- a woman in pale blue touching her stomach. Is this grief? Or the victory of breeding and manners over grief? This is no bewailing.